Do you want to be happier immediately? A happy life is probably what everyone is looking forward to having. Start practicing these five things and you will be rewarded big time.
1 – STOP USING SOCIAL MEDIA EXCESSIVELY (ESPECIALLY FACEBOOK)
Nowadays with Facebook and all the other Social Media around we are literally deluged with the positive and happy news and photos of other people. Most of the times we are happy for them. But then, 2 nights out of 100, we are starting to compare our lives (which may not be that interesting than their fotos) and this comparison will make us unhappy. It is a sad truth that our social activities online have made us compare our life to the ones of others in a really barbaric way. We tend to only see the happy situations online, no one will put a sad moment to share for everyone on Facebook. Comparing this seemingly perfect life of others with ours is one of the causes of modern unhappiness. Not understanding that what we see from others is not the reality is very important.
2 – DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF WITH OTHERS
Everyone has been in the situation before, let it be in school, at work or in private life. Somebody else has something that YOU should have earned, that YOU deserve way more than this other human. Happiness is not build on who is the strongest, richest or most beautiful person in the world. Happiness is a decision. Understand that there is not one person like you on earth (even if you are a twin) and that just because of that comparing yourself to somebody else is already out of the question. What is the most important is that YOU are happy with your decisions, your income, your life, not others. If you are comparing yourself to somebody else, ask yourself why. If you come to the conclusion that you want to have “the same” that another person has, great! This will help you understanding who you are and what you are looking for in life. If you have a goal you will be able to work towards it with much more focus – a way that will make you happier, even when only “on the road” and not yet at the goal.
3 – DO NOT IGNORE YOUR INNER FEELINGS
Do you know that feeling, that you have to decide something really important and you decide one way (because your head tells you so) but there is something, a feeling, inside you that just does not feel right? Welcome to your inner guts. You should NEVER completely ignore them. Everyone has had decisions to take in life and we all know that a lot of times there is no right or wrong. But we know we “should” or “have to” decide one way because this is “how life works”. For example, you got offered a great job, after having studied something you were good at at school, you have been on the career path and will continue to grow in this position. Your head and everyone surrounding you will tell you “Take the job! This is great!” but there is something inside you, some strange feeling, somebody trying to show you that it is not all perfect as it seems. Never ignore this voice inside you because this voice is telling you what is important in your life, and only in your life. Maybe the joboffer was a great one and the next career step. But this also meant you had to change locations, or you had more responsibility leading to more working hours in the office. If you start understanding that listening to your inner feelings will bring you more happiness in your life you will not ignore it anymore for one more second.
4 – TAKE YOUR OWN LIFE DECISIONS
Do not let other people decide what you do and what you don’t in life. Why would you? These people do not have your talent, your beauty, nor your thoughts and for sure not your charme. This is your life you are living and you should be living it with the maximum of personal joy, because you won’t get back any second of it. So, the next time that you ask somebody for advice, take the advice if you need it, but then take your own decision and stand for it. Understand that when taking your own decisions there is no “right” or “wrong”. Even when you feel you were wrong about something you will see that the learning experience for you will be huge.
5 – DO NOT PUT OFF YOUR DREAMS
Dreams can be scary sometimes. Why? Because we risk a lot. We risk it not working out, and we might be ashamed about it. Especially when we turn older it is even harder to keep dreaming. We are constantly on the spot, often we represent a company and do not want to lose our job. We cannot make mistakes, so often we don’t try it at all. We don’t wont to be laughed at by our co-workers or other people. When you are scared remind yourself of this: why do you think kids can be so unbelievably happy? Because the don’t give anything about what other people are thinking, they just do whatever they want to do in this specific moment. And this makes them happy. If you have a dream you are already one huge step ahead of the most of us. You know what you want, you can picture yourself in a situation doing something you love. If you don’t know what you love anymore, take a sabbatical and figure out where you are heading. Dreams are good and you should use everything you have to follow your dreams in your life. Every person has a purpose on this planet and if it is not you fighting for your dreams, then what is it??